This life-coach decided to make a dramatic change in her life after realizing that she was stuck in an unfulfilling, 9 to 5 job. Her journey started when she committed to the path of self-discovery- figuring out what she was meant to do in this world: self-help and coaching others.
The choice to change her own life was the inspiration to help others create the life of their dreams.
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You define yourself by someone who loves to share ways on how to better ourselves and how to create a beautiful life. Who inspired you to start this coaching way of life?
Since I was a little girl, I’ve always had this deep yearning to live a beautiful life and lifestyle. As I got older, I realized that the only way to achieve this dream was to become the best version of myself.
I think it was a combination of my childhood dream and reading my first self-help book, “Finding Your Own North Star”, that inspired me to help other people create and live their own version of a beautiful life.
Your career is based on coaching others. Would you describe yourself as a strong woman?
I would describe myself as a strong woman. Strength and independence are traits that I can credit my mom for. As kids, my sister and I were taught to take care of ourselves and never rely on anyone else to give us what we need or want.
I’m not one to sit around, waiting for something outside of myself to change, if I want something, I figure out what needs to be done, and I do it. And that lesson alone, is so powerful to teach others.
Due to your journey of self-discovery, you wrote your E-Book “How to Be Happy & Thrive in Your Twenties”. How did you discover your talent and find happiness in what you do in life?
It was definitely a journey! I dedicated each and every day to questioning and clarifying my beliefs, exploring my passions and talents, and identifying and working on the parts of myself that I wanted to better. The self-discovery process is not overnight, but it’s well worth it.
When you graduated college you had no idea what your passions were.
Do you think there is something wrong with the Education System today?
Do you think it is flawed in the sense that it doesn’t help today’s kids identify their talents, passions and strengths?
Not only do I believe there’s something incredibly wrong with our education system, but I would say that it ranks as my number one frustration in the world. It needs a huge overhaul. Luckily, there are people and organizations that are actively seeking solutions and my hope is to be a part of that bigger solution one day.
Happiness and success are not achieved by this linear path that our schools push and shove kids toward day in and day out. It just doesn’t work that way in the 21st century. Take a look at the Millennials. The proof is in the pudding. They are struggling to find their way because they were never taught how. We need a system that helps and accommodates each student, uniquely.
How to coach in a constantly-changing society
We, the Millennials, are the generation that change career paths and areas of interest more than any other generation. Do you think that this constant changing state of mind about what we want to do in life is positive or negative?
First and foremost, if you don’t (clearly) know what you want, it’s impossible to achieve it.
The problem with this generation is that most of us are trying to take short cuts to success. We’d rather guess our way through careers, instead of doing the “work” to come up with the right answer for ourselves. By doing this, you’ll be changing jobs your entire life or be stuck in a job that you hate.
My biggest piece of advice is to take the necessary time to figure out what your calling is.
As far as being positive or negative, it can go both ways! It’s very rare to land your dream job on the first try. Most likely, you’ll jump around a bit. And that’s perfectly OK, if you A) Learn the lesson, and B) Know when to jump ship. This formula will get you to where you want to go the fastest way possible.
Do you think that this situation is an outlet to create new careers out of the conventional ones?
Absolutely! There are so many careers today that were unheard of five, ten, twenty years ago. Especially with advanced technology, the world really is our oyster. Just another reason that I hate to see young people take the “safe” route. Once I found my “niche” in the world, it was amazing to see my different talents and passions come together.
It’s normal to be multi-passionate and it takes a little trial and error. Sometimes, an interest of yours may just be a hobby- and not a money maker- and that’s OK too.
As a life coach, which are the main steps that you take in consideration when starting working with a client?
In recent months, I made the difficult, but right decision for myself, to stop one-on-one coaching- for the time being at least. I’ve always known that I was meant to reach the masses.
But to answer your question, the client must be ready and willing to take the necessary action in his or her everyday life. The most important quality that I look for in someone is a strong desire to change.
I’ve learned that a lot of people hire a professional in hope of being the one to fix their problems. But, an hour session a week will not create lasting change.
Do you think that positivity is key to success, or are there other important attitudes and factors?
As I stated before, a strong desire to succeed (and change) is crucial. Optimism is equally important to overcome personal doubt and fear (which will come up over and over again). Also, having a sense of empowerment, responsibility and ownership is HUGE.
Do you think that a problem in this world/society is the lack of (first of all) self-love and believing in ourselves, which could lead us into true love and supporting one another?
YES! If we want things outside of ourselves to change (to find love, our passion, healthy relationships), we must first and foremost, start by looking inward and loving ourselves. I think that everything starts with how we feel and what we believe about ourselves.
How can we expect other people to love us if we don’t love ourselves? How can we expect other people to treat us kindly, if we’re constantly putting ourselves down?
Getting into the Youtube troubled waters
You have been in Youtube for over a year. What are the best and the worst parts of it?
The best part is having an outlet where I can bring my ideas to life. There’s nothing more fulfilling to my creative self than that. I love having the ability to reach vast audiences and share my messages all over the world.
As far as the worst part, I think just being fully exposed to “internet trolls” and not knowing who is watching your videos, or what their intentions are.
Have you find more love or hate on it?
As of right now, I’m definitely finding more love! I predict that might change as my channel grows, but I strive to create an uplifting, inspiring community and I have no problem deleting nasty comments.
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